L2L Talk by Dr Irfan Hyder. July 14, Saturday, 2012

• Meaning of Confidence 
• Self confidence, self assurance 
• Someone who is sure about his potential 
• Self awareness about strengths, weaknesses 
• Ability to express and communicate with confidence and press one's point of view.
• How to use existing strengths to cope with unexpected results 
• Initiative to try new things and volunteer for new situations 
• Ability to take on and face
• New challenges 
• New situations
• New people 
• New places 
• New gadgets 
• New ways of doing things 
• Coping and overcoming fear 
• Fear of unknown
• Unknown people, unknown situations, unknown places, unknown conditions, unknown results 
• Fear of failure
• In our culture, there is an inordinate cost of failure 
• Educated and trained to see failure as crime 
• Once Edison was asked, didn’t you get discouraged when you tried a thousand times to build a bulb and failed a thousand times. He replied. No, my dear, I just considered building a bulb, as a thousand step procedure. 
• Fear of embarrassment, peer pressure, fear of being laughed at, made fun of 
• Fear of reproach: Reproach by the society; going against the norms, for unfavorable results 
• What could we have done, if we knew that we will not fail. See talk on ted.com
• This opens the possibilities for doing so many new things.
• External sources of strength vs internal sources of strength
• Why people go for branded clothes, fancy gadget, flashy car, exotic jewelry and other material acquisitions. 
• Signifies worry about their internal self worthlessness
• Internal qualities, self awareness would not make them need such external props.