posted Jul 16, 2012, 7:23 AM by L2L Admin
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updated Feb 9, 2013, 5:39 PM by Irfan Hyder
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L2L Talk by Dr Irfan Hyder. July 14, Saturday, 2012- Meaning of Confidence
- Self confidence, self assurance
- Someone who is sure about his potential
- Self awareness about strengths, weaknesses
- Ability to express and communicate with confidence and press one's point of view.
- How to use existing strengths to cope with unexpected results
- Initiative to try new things and volunteer for new situations
- Ability to take on and face
- New challenges
- New situations
- New people
- New places
- New gadgets
- New ways of doing things
- Coping and overcoming fear
- Fear of unknown
- Unknown people, unknown situations, unknown places, unknown conditions, unknown results
- Fear of failure
- In our culture, there is an inordinate cost of failure
- Educated and trained to see failure as crime
- Once Edison was asked, didn’t you get discouraged when you tried a thousand times to build a bulb and failed a thousand times. He replied. No, my dear, I just considered building a bulb, as a thousand step procedure.
- Fear of embarrassment, peer pressure, fear of being laughed at, made fun of
- Fear of reproach: Reproach by the society; going against the norms, for unfavorable results
- What could we have done, if we knew that we will not fail. See talk on ted.com
- This opens the possibilities for doing so many new things.
- External sources of strength vs internal sources of strength
- Why people go for branded clothes, fancy gadget, flashy car, exotic jewelry and other material acquisitions.
- Signifies worry about their internal self worthlessness
- Internal qualities, self awareness would not make them need such external props.
A questionnaire was distributed to evaluate ability of parents to raise confident kids. Write to hyder@L2Lacademy.org if you want to use this tool for self evaluation. |
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