Raising Confident Kids
Post date: Jul 16, 2012 2:23:12 PM
L2L Talk by Dr Irfan Hyder. July 14, Saturday, 2012
Meaning of Confidence
Self confidence, self assurance
Someone who is sure about his potential
Self awareness about strengths, weaknesses
Ability to express and communicate with confidence and press one's point of view.
How to use existing strengths to cope with unexpected results
Initiative to try new things and volunteer for new situations
Ability to take on and face
New ways of doing things
Coping and overcoming fear
Fear of unknown
Unknown people, unknown situations, unknown places, unknown conditions, unknown results
Fear of failure
In our culture, there is an inordinate cost of failure
Educated and trained to see failure as crime
Once Edison was asked, didn’t you get discouraged when you tried a thousand times to build a bulb and failed a thousand times. He replied. No, my dear, I just considered building a bulb, as a thousand step procedure.
Fear of embarrassment, peer pressure, fear of being laughed at, made fun of
Fear of reproach: Reproach by the society; going against the norms, for unfavorable results
What could we have done, if we knew that we will not fail. See talk on ted.com
This opens the possibilities for doing so many new things.
External sources of strength vs internal sources of strength
Why people go for branded clothes, fancy gadget, flashy car, exotic jewelry and other material acquisitions.
Signifies worry about their internal self worthlessness
Internal qualities, self awareness would not make them need such external props.
A questionnaire was distributed to evaluate ability of parents to raise confident kids. Write to hyder@L2Lacademy.org if you want to use this tool for self evaluation.