Raising Confident Kids

Post date: Jul 16, 2012 2:23:12 PM

L2L Talk by Dr Irfan Hyder. July 14, Saturday, 2012

    • Meaning of Confidence

    • Self confidence, self assurance

      • Someone who is sure about his potential

      • Self awareness about strengths, weaknesses

      • Ability to express and communicate with confidence and press one's point of view.

    • How to use existing strengths to cope with unexpected results

    • Initiative to try new things and volunteer for new situations

    • Ability to take on and face

      • New challenges

      • New situations

      • New people

      • New places

      • New gadgets

      • New ways of doing things

    • Coping and overcoming fear

      • Fear of unknown

      • Unknown people, unknown situations, unknown places, unknown conditions, unknown results

      • Fear of failure

    • In our culture, there is an inordinate cost of failure

      • Educated and trained to see failure as crime

      • Once Edison was asked, didn’t you get discouraged when you tried a thousand times to build a bulb and failed a thousand times. He replied. No, my dear, I just considered building a bulb, as a thousand step procedure.

    • Fear of embarrassment, peer pressure, fear of being laughed at, made fun of

    • Fear of reproach: Reproach by the society; going against the norms, for unfavorable results

    • What could we have done, if we knew that we will not fail. See talk on ted.com

      • This opens the possibilities for doing so many new things.

    • External sources of strength vs internal sources of strength

      • Why people go for branded clothes, fancy gadget, flashy car, exotic jewelry and other material acquisitions.

      • Signifies worry about their internal self worthlessness

      • Internal qualities, self awareness would not make them need such external props.

A questionnaire was distributed to evaluate ability of parents to raise confident kids. Write to hyder@L2Lacademy.org if you want to use this tool for self evaluation.